This obituary for Audie Murphy's widow, Pam Murphy, was sent to me by Darryl Adamson.  It was written in 2010, but is so touching it should be printed over and over.  What an example of enduring love she is.  Not just to her husband, but to all veterans.  She was a true patriot.
Los Angeles Daily News  4/14/2010
Pam Murphy, widow of Audie Murphy, was every veterans’ friend and advocate.
Pam  Murphy was involved in the Sepulveda VA  hospital  and care center over the course
of 35 years, treating every  veteran who visited the facility as if they were a VIP. Pam Murphy
died  last week at the age of 90.
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After Audie died, they all became her boys. Every last one of them.  Any soldier or Marine who walked into the Sepulveda VA hospital and  care center in the last 35 years got the VIP treatment from Pam Murphy.  The widow of Audie Murphy – the most decorated soldier in World War  II – would walk the hallways with her clipboard in hand making sure her  boys got to see a specialist or doctor — STAT. If they didn’t, watch  out.
Her boys weren’t Medal of Honor recipients or movie stars like Audie,  but that didn’t matter to Pam. They had served their country. That was  good enough for her.  She never called a veteran by his first name. It was always “Mister.” Respect came with the job.  “Nobody could cut through VA red tape faster than Mrs. Murphy,” said  veteran Stephen Sherman, speaking for thousands of veterans she  befriended over the years.
“Many times I watched her march a veteran who had been waiting more  than an hour right into the doctor’s office. She was even reprimanded a  few times, but it didn’t matter to Mrs. Murphy.  “Only her boys mattered. She was our angel.”
Last week, Sepulveda VA’s angel for the last 35 years died peacefully in her sleep at age 90.  “She was in bed watching the Laker game, took one last breath, and  that was it,” said Diane Ruiz, who also worked at the VA and cared for  Pam in the last years of her life in her Canoga Park apartment.  It was the same apartment Pam moved into soon after Audie died in a plane crash on Memorial Day weekend in 1971.  Audie Murphy died broke, squandering million of dollars on gambling, bad investments, and yes, other women.  “Even with the adultery and desertion at the end, he always remained my hero,” Pam told me.  She went from a comfortable ranch-style home in Van Nuys where she  raised two sons to a small apartment – taking a clerk’s job at the  nearby VA to support herself and start paying off her faded movie star  husband’s debts.
At first, no one knew who she was. Soon, though, word spread through  the VA that the nice woman with the clipboard was Audie Murphy’s widow.  It was like saying Patton had just walked in the front door. Men with  tears in their eyes walked up to her and gave her a hug. “Thank you,”  they said, over and over.  The first couple of years, I think the hugs were more for Audie’s memory as a war hero. The last 30 years, they were for Pam.
She hated the spotlight. One year I asked her to be the focus of a  Veteran’s Day column for all the work she had done. Pam just shook her  head no.  “Honor them, not me,” she said, pointing to a group of veterans down the hallway. “They’re the ones who deserve it.”  The vets disagreed. Mrs. Murphy deserved the accolades, they said.
Incredibly, in 2002, Pam’s job was going to be eliminated in budget cuts. She was considered “excess staff."  “I don’t think helping cut down on veterans’ complaints and showing  them the respect they deserve, should be considered excess staff,” she  told me.  Neither did the veterans. They went ballistic, holding a rally for her outside the VA gates.  Pretty soon, word came down from the top of the VA. Pam Murphy was no  longer considered “excess staff.”  She remained working full time at the  VA until 2007 when she was 87.  “The last time she was here was a couple of years ago for the  conference we had for homeless veterans,” said Becky James, coordinator  of the VA’s Veterans History Project.  Pam wanted to see if there was anything she could do to help some more of her boys.
Funeral services for Pam Murphy will be held Friday at 2:30 p.m. in  the chapel at Forest Lawn, Hollywood Hills, 6300 Forest Lawn Drive, Los  Angeles.